I want to write about feminism because I have come to believe that the modern 20-something woman has very skewed ideas about feminism. Some claim to be feminists without fully defining the term for themselves nor understanding what it means to be such a thing. Some think it is an outdated term that they want nothing to do with. Some say they are feminists and want nothing to do with motherhood or the idea of catering to a man. Some hate the idea because they think it is demeaning to stay at home moms. I am of a different school. One that believes in feminism but with a new definition for a new time. Looking at feminism as a strictly 1970's women's liberation issue is inaccurate. It is like thinking women fought for something that they once needed, they got it, and now live happily ever after. This could not be further from the truth. This idea is plagueing women and society alike, similar to the idea that the civil right's movement for African Americans' accomplished equality and they no longer need to work towards different goals for black people in America. The goals that were fought for at the time may have been met to certain degrees but in no way is the fight over, the fight is never over. Just as a person is always changing and adapting, so is society, and with that change comes the need for oppressed people of color and women to make sure that their needs are addressed. The idea that feminism or civil rights is a moment in history instead of a practice and lifestyle is dangerous. For real change, long lasting change, it takes time, work, practice, and dedication. It means to stop shopping where it is "easiest" right now in efforts to make it BETTER in the long term. It means to change the way we live and act on a daily basis in order to set a standard that must be met. Change happens by constant action.
In terms of feminism, there are many errors to approaching it as a 70's bra-burning movement that reached its goal, is over, and is unnecessary in modern America. This is inaccurate on a number of accounts. First, we must look at who was rallying and what their causes were: middle class white women who were tired of the role of a housewife and wanted equal opportunities in the job market. For modern women, this is not a problem. More women are enrolled in universities and colleges than men, women have all different occupational job titles, and are encouraged to be mothers and working women. And for women of color, in the 70's their issues varied greatly to those of privileged white women, yet were not addressed as a mainstream women's issue. Unfortunately, as amazing and liberating women's lib was, it was not all encompassing. That is not to discredit those women in any way for I admire them and revere them, but I also learn from their mistakes. I see from my 80's baby, coming of age in the turn of the 21st century lens. I am critical of the government, corporations, banks, and any thing, person, or group that has the majority of power, money, and resources. I understand that these are people who are building businesses and an empire for THEMSELVES. If you look at the CEOs of America's largest and top companies and banks you will see all white men. Needless to say, their goal is not to empower women financially nor people of color, but to maintain their empire (their family and its future). Therefore, asking them to give equal jobs and ammenities to others will only get one so far, just as it did for African Americans and women in days past.
It is not up to other people to fix your situation, only you can create change for yourself. White America in power is not going to completely open every door to black people because it threatens their power. They may write laws stating equality but they will hinder it in other areas and make the practice of said equality, less equal. Their schools will get the least funding, they will be racially profiled and incarcerated by the masses, they will be medically tested without their knowledge or consent, they will be given the worst food sources, etc. Therefore, expecting to rally for change and for it to be GIVEN to you, is a dead end route. The only way to make real change is through business and support. MONEY TALKS.
For women, feminism relies on support on so many levels. Women need to look at themselves holistically and address their issues as such. We are mind, spirit, body, energy, emotion, and many other wonders all wrapped together. When I am stressed out my hormones are out of wack and my diet gets off balance and my energy is zapped and my bowels are out of order and my skin breaks out. I am a whole being and each part of me needs nourishment. This is what women must see within themselves. Do not define ourselves and our womanhood so narrowly. I am a woman, independent and with a unique voice, mind, and mission. I am a student. I am a daycare provider. I am an activist. I do not shave my armpits, pubes, or legs in the winter. I plan on being a mommy one day. I am a lover of men. I find women to be supreme beings. I AM EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING AND NOTHING AT ALL. For me, to define women is impossible and I make feminism a way of life. A way of living in love with myself and then in love with others. I support women and believe in women and fight for women. I do not judge women for their choices nor do I narrowly decide if they are acting out the appropriate form of womanhood. I stand against female objectification, oppression, subjugation and stand for female empowerment, community, success. I do not define success for other women, but I will stand with them in their efforts to break down barriers to get it.
But, as I stated earlier, I will not expect for men or other women to make change for me. If I want more women to have businesses and to be independent, I will support them financially and regular their businesses. If I want women to be able to have proper childcare when they are at work, I will advocate for it and supply it if I open a business of my own. I disagree with the negative and stereotypical messages that are sent to women via mainstream media and magazines so I will not support, buy, or watch those forms of "entertainment" and I will teach others of the danger they pose to women everywhere.
End of Part 1. Meditate on this.
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